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From: "Joseph Britt" <>
Subject: This concerns everyone.....& apologies to the listowners.
Date: Fri, 30 Jan 1998 19:53:26 +0000
Allow me to humbly throw my two cents into the ring based on more than
ten years experience in online discussions like the ones we enter into
Friends...both the "regulars" and the "lurkers" that we seldom hear
from, BICKERING is something that you need to get used to while at the
same time working towards minimizing it THROUGH PRIVATE MAIL.
To the regulars I say...It is easy to cross paths, say something that
someone doesn't like, be misinterpreted or misinterpret something
someone else says...etc., etc., etc...in this kind of environment.
Almost all of the things we say are attached to "body language" which
people see in personal contact and the two together convey a more
perfect meaning to our words. However!...without the visual contact
even the most innocent things are easily taken the wrong way and bitter
catfights can result.
Participation in this particular type of environment is not an easy
thing to adjust to. It would seem...and does seem to most...that it
should be an almost automatic thing to act and be civil in this
environment. In fact, people often wonder how something they say that
wouldn't be "anything" in normal conversation brings such tirades from
people here. The truth is that even though it "feels" like we are
simply writing a letter...like we do to our family & friends...that
online messaging ettiquette (& tolerance) is E_X_T_R_E_M_E_L_Y
difficult to learn...often taking years....sometimes it is never
To make things easier for all, my suggestion to the "regulars"
is to take your "chill pills", go light on the coffee, take deep
breaths, count to 10 (maybe several times), remember that the "send"
key can bite you where you don't want to be bitten, and along with
about a thousand other things...don't be afraid to give the other
person the break we all need...catfights can start at the drop of a
hat. Let's be patient.
To the "lurkers" out there I say...forgive these poor knuckleheads for
they know not what they do. (Big Grin). Don't come into here, lurk,
see all the bickering and ASSUME that it isn't worth it....because it
IS if you are serious about what this is all about. You might have to
sort through a lot of nonsense to get to the good stuff...but it IS
here. Keep lurking...don't overlook the "digest modes" of these
lists...and just keep your eyes open. Some people want to read every
message...some just look at the headers; do whatever feels
comfortable and occasionally "just for fun" open one of those "no
subject" messages...it might surprise you.
I (purposely) do not post to the lists very often...I leave that to
the "experts" (Grin!). However do NOT be afraid to jump in if you have
something to say. And don't forget that someone else might be anxiously
waiting to see _YOUR_ surname pop up so that they can get together with
You will not see me here very often but these lists have
been a vehicle to connect me with several cousins that I did not know
about till they saw something from me here...and have been influential
in solving an 80 year old mystery concerning a grandmother that neither
my father nor I ever knew.
Never give up the ship and don't ASSUME from a few days, or few weeks,
or few months of browsing these lists that it's all a waste of
time....they DO work.
Condolences to all,
BRITT - VA>TN
BROWN - Knoxville,TN area
BYRD - Carter Co, TN & Michell Co, NC
CHANDLER - Knoxville,TN area
DAVIS - Knoxville,TN area
HONEYCUTT - Carter Co.,TN area
STANDIFER - Wise Co.,VA
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