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From: "Kathy Begey" <>
Subject: Re: [ONT] info
Date: Wed, 26 Jul 2000 13:49:06 -0500


Hi All,
Well, After reading this I just had to comment. Jean, I'm sorry that your
own family doesn't appreciate all the hard work you've put into your
research. And I realize that some family members can be like a thorn in your
side (I have some too) But if their are people willing to carry on the
history of a family, I don't feel we should withhold information. Yes, they
can/could offer something for your costs. I have read this wonderful bit of
advice and would like to pass it on.

"It is needful that we sometimes endure, keeping to ourselves what evil men
are, in order that they may learn in us, by our good living, what they are
not."

St Gregory

This quote has helped me remember that we are all so different and yet the
same. As time goes by we may forget names and faces, but we never forget how
someone has treated us. So, wouldn't you want to be rememered as someone who
was able to give grace to others? What a tragedy it would be if after your
gone, no one was interested in genealogy and papers were gone. I hope all is
worked out in your family, maybe you can be their example of proper
behavior.

It's Better To Give Than Recieve,
Kathy Begey

www.muscanet.com/~jaster







> How right your are about family! I have a sister-in-law and her daughter
> who feel I should just give them every piece of info that I worked hard
and
> spent money on to just give it to them. When I say something about costs
> they become antagonistic towards me. I had set my puter up and when ever
> certain names came up on any of the lists I am on I would automatically
> forward to the neice the info as she was the one doing the research on her
> exhusbands families. She made a comment that I only sent her junk and
> garbage and nothing ever was really good. When I heard about it I wrote
to
> her and simply told her that I thought I was doing her a favor by sending
> her the email messages which contained the names of people she was
> researching. I stated that she would never ever get another piece of info
> from me if her life depended on it seeing as she was so ungreatful. She
> tried sicing her mother on me but I put her in her place also. Since they
> felt I was doing a lousy genealogical research then they would not be
> interested in the research tht I had done on my husband's fathers side of
> his family which has been a great mystery for over 40 years. I found the
> missing link and I will be damned if I will give them that info. They
won't
> know where to even begin and they will never find the family or its
origins.
> When ever I tried telling them about how to get something (birth record
from
> Cityof Detroit) they told me I was wrong because the Grandmother was born
in
> Germany. This is how stupid these two people are. After charging me to
> copy three pieces of paper showing that she was a citizen of the U.S. they
> couldn't even read the paper right. It stated that her parents were born
in
> Germany not the grandmother. I told them all they had to do was go to the
> City of Detroit and get her birth record ( I did), they refused to believe
> me and wanted a copy. I refused and told them where they could obtain it.
> Since that time I have not sent one piece of info to these people and now
> the daughter (neice) has been trying to get my daughter to get the info
from
> me. I won't give her anything to pass onto them. My daughter made the
> comment about not sharing and I told her I intended to outlive both my
> sister-in-law and her daughter and they would never get the info from me.
> They can do and pay for their own research without any help from me.
> Jean Payton
>
>
>
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "CLR" <>
> To: <>
> Sent: Wednesday, July 26, 2000 12:12 AM
> Subject: Re: Fw: [ONT] info
>
>
> > Well, this certainly makes me feel better to know that I am not the only
> one
> > who
> > has been bamboozled by one's own family....amazing isn't it, that
> strangers
> > are
> > more to be trusted than family, and here we are searching for our roots?
> > And no, I will not be sharing "my stuff" anymore....what a shame it
is...
> > These
> > people go on without a clue....or maybe not...
> >
> >
> >
> > ----- Original Message -----
> > From: "Mary-Ann Vanderloo" <>
> > To: <>
> > Sent: Tuesday, July 25, 2000 8:02 PM
> > Subject: Re: Fw: [ONT] info
> >
> >
> > : This happens to me all the time. I share info with family members and
> > with
> > : those I've found on the internet. All I have ever asked for in return
> is
> > : that they fill in their line. I rarely hear back from anyone. The
> people
> > : that most often reply to me are those that I have yet to prove a
> > connection
> > : to. Quite amazing. I have more luck with strangers that with
cousins.
> > :
> > :
> > : Mary-Ann Vanderloo
> > : Michigan (formerly Ontario)
> > : Researching MATHESON/McIVER/McCOLMAN/KENDRICK/HUGHSON
> > :
> > :
> > : ----- Original Message -----
> > : From: <>
> > : To: <>
> > : Sent: Tuesday, July 25, 2000 7:37 PM
> > : Subject: Re: Fw: [ONT] info
> > :
> > :
> > : > I have had very good luck with a researcher in Ontario. He gave me
> more
> > : > than I asked for for a very small fee. But I have a complaint with
> > people
> > : > who I have contacted and wanted to share info.,so I made copies,
> mailed
> > : > them at not cost to them and when they got what I had I never heard
> from
> > : > them again. I feel kind of used and abused. Does this happen very
> often
> > : > to anyone else.
> > : >
> > : > ---- "intrepid" <> wrote:
> > : > > This is the first time I have heard of a dirty trick like this. In
> > : > > the first
> > : > > place a person with good intentions would never accept ,let alone
> ask
> > : > > for
> > : > > money from a fellow genealogist.
> > : > > Richard
> > : > > ----- Original Message -----
> > : > > From: Betty S <>
> > : > > To: <>
> > : > > Sent: Monday, July 24, 2000 11:48 PM
> > : > > Subject: [ONT] info
> > : > >
> > : > >
> > : > > > I am realy discusted with some one that was going to look some
> > : > > > deaths,marriage records at the libary in Hastings Co.I sent the
> > money
> > : > > > and he did not send me anything,and changed his email address, i
> > : > > am
> > : > > > assuming cause he has not answered any of my email since
then,he
> > : > > took
> > : > > > my money and ran.how can any one be that untrusting
> > : > > > discusted
> > : > > >
> > : > > >
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