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From: "Caroline Bradford" <>
Subject: Re: [Ess] Death and Burial records
Date: Thu, 6 Mar 2008 23:52:11 -0000
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Hi Heather

I don't think it's that uncommon, though perhaps a little extreme. Since
cremation became more and more the norm, the issue of how and where ashes
should be disposed of can become an issue within families that takes some
time to be resolved. Immediate funeral arrangements have to be made soon
after death, even when there are conflicting views or family complications.
But the final resting place of ashes carries no time imperative, which may
be an advantage as it allows family and friends time to make considered
decisions and arrangements. Sometimes these decisions can take an
inordinate time to resolve to everyone's satisfaction. Five years is rather
a long time, but so long as all those concerned were happy with the outcome
in the end, that's all that matters.

Best wishes


> -----Original Message-----
> From: [mailto:essex-uk-
> ] On Behalf Of The Quineys
> Sent: 06 March 2008 21:32
> To: Essex Mailing List
> Subject: [Ess] Death and Burial records
> Hello List
> I've come across a gravestone anomaly - according to the headstone the
> death occurred in 1974, however, the burial isn't registered until 5
> years later in 1979. Initially, we assumed that the 4 and the 9 had
> been misread on one or the other but today, I've verified that the
> death
> really was in 1974 and entry in the burial register is chronologically
> correct (the previous entry being the previous month and the subsequent
> entry being the following month) in 1979.
> Reading the wording on the headstone (which I don't have to hand at the
> moment), it implies/states that here lie the ashes of the deceased (not
> the actual body). We are now wondering whether the person died and was
> cremated. The ashes were then held onto (by a member of the family?)
> for 5 years before finally being laid to rest in the churchyard.
> What do others think about the ashes being kept for 5 years (not
> personal opinions about doing such a thing) but is a reasonable
> assumption? Is 5 years an unusually long period to retain the urn or
> whatever? Is it actually quite common?
> Would appreciate your thoughs :-)
> Heather
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