ESSEX-UK-L Archives

Archiver > ESSEX-UK > 2006-11 > 1163814987


From: "Helen W." <>
Subject: Re: [Ess] when you find relatives, then no reply
Date: Sat, 18 Nov 2006 11:56:27 +1000
References: <048c01c70aa6$fcec4520$0200a8c0@acer4ijnidsf7i>


Years ago when I first started tracing my family, I contacted a 'cousin' at
the suggestion of my uncle. He had traced the descendants of his paternal
grandparents, and I was going to research further back.

I was told in no uncertain terms that she was a professional researcher (NOT
in genealogy) and had to pay for her information and suggested after
answering my question that I started doing the same rather than sponging off
those who did pay for it.

Recently I answered a query (not on this list) by a family member on her
behalf. I was accused of having the wrong information, so I sent a scan of
a parish register entry and a photo. I was then asked to gedcom my files so
the family member could print them out so she could compare them with hers
as she only had hard copies, since she started her research before there
were Genealogy programs for computers!! I replied that I am having problems
with my program - which I truthfully am. I find it hard to believe that a
'professional researcher' with a computer does still not have a genealogy
program - I've had one since 1994.

Since they don't respond to emails unless asked if they got the information
sent - I'm still waiting for acknowledgement of the information I sent over
a fortnight ago - I'm rather loath to print out and send hard copy.

Helen.




> Sarah Eley wrote

>I found a relative in Australia who has swapped quite a bit of info with
>me,
> but other than that, I often get no response at all. The person who
> mentioned the initial flurry of enthusiasm followed by dawning realisation
> that it is hard work has probably hit the nail on the head.
> Apathy rules.
>
> I always liked the quote about 'the more I see of people, the more I like
> my
> dog'. Present company excepted, of course.
>

This thread: