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From: "patricia salter" <>
Subject: Re: Essex family problems - to disclose or not?
Date: Thu, 2 Sep 2004 09:06:55 +0100
References: <016601c48ffc$3eec4a60$a8790650@packard> <00a901c49061$aff912a0$0300a8c0@pamspc>


I dont understand why anyone would be so upset about this, if the guy had
loved his stepfather, then why not grieve as much for him as his real
father, the same with the half brothers. My great grandfather died at the
age of 25 and my great grandmother married again, she had 4 children from
her first marriage, my grandmother being the youngest, and then had another
11 with the second husband. My grandmother knew this, and loved her half
siblings just as much as she loved her full siblings, and the whole family
stayed extremely close until that whole generation died, even to the extent
that I, as a child, used to spend my summers staying with each of the great
aunts and uncles, as did my mother before me.

Patti




----- Original Message -----
From: "Pam Downes" <>
To: <>
Sent: Wednesday, September 01, 2004 9:24 PM
Subject: Re: Essex family problems - to disclose or not?


> This goes under the heading of 'you couldn't make it up'.
>
> How about going to your father's funeral, only to be told by one of your
> brothers not to waste your tears because he wasn't your father? And of the
3
> men who you thought were your brothers, two of them were actually only
> half-brothers?
>
> My cousin's husband said this explained why his 'father' never liked him
or
> his true brother, and often made their lives a misery. By good fortune he
> had known and liked the man who was his true father all his life, though
> without being aware of the real relationship.
>
> Pam Downes
>
>
>


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