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From: "Bev Harsh" <>
Subject: Re: Essex family problems - to disclose or not?
Date: Wed, 1 Sep 2004 20:48:49 +0100
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Hi Anne,

I feel there is a big difference between not telling things to family
members who are not doing family research, and witholding or far worse,
misrepresenting, facts, when dealing with ones who are.

Bev



> Colleen,
> I agree with you. I would not tell. My aunt got very upset when he
> discovered our great grandfather did not get married until several
> children - including our grandfather - had been born. So I have not
> told her what I have found out - that he started another family with
> his second wife before his first wife died, and that another ancestor
> from another side of the family committed suicide.
> With genetic traits, it's slightly different. Then you might want to
> tell the younger people. But you can let the pictures tell their own
> story. People are very good at not seeing what they don't want to see.
> Best wishes,
> Anne


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