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From: "richang" <>
Subject: Re: Only requires a little effort!
Date: Mon, 21 Jan 2002 18:35:01 -0500
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Please don't paint all with the same brush. I for one, am eternally grateful
for all the help I have received through the lists. I started about 9 months
ago with merely 2 names and have amassed a respectable family history file
thanks, almost exclusively, to the list members.

Living in Canada and unable to access files necessitates assistance from
many people. I have found that the vast majority are not only interested,
but really keen to help.

As for those who think life exists only to cater to their whims, get a life
and stay out of mine!

Thanks to all for your help, please keep on, it is very much appreciated.

Sorry for the rant, but it needs saying.

Rich

----- Original Message -----
From: "Michael Daniels" <>
To: <>
Sent: Monday, January 21, 2002 5:55 PM
Subject: Only requires a little effort!


> Sorry to say Diane, your experiences over people's apparent ingratitude
for the, valu-able, help you gave, is sadly and not infrequently, par for
the course!
>
> There are always an element in every walk of life that think everyone else
is just there
> for their convenience. Thus showing due appreciation for someone's kind
gesture is
> inconsequential to their selfish objectives. I too have responded to
calls for inform-ation, thence to hear nothing, as though one's efforts have
disappeared into some
> mysterious black hole.
>
> I am rather suspicious of minimalistic requests. Sometimes these consist
of a meagre list of names, no other data; no location, no dates or
occupations etc.
> When one thinks of highly populated counties like Kent and Essex and the
likelihood
> that any surname that is not rare, may crop up widely across the region,
then I fail to
> see any sense in responding to this sort of quest.
>
> I think most genealogists genuinely would wish to help each other if they
could, but as usual a minority can spoil this nice, now Internet enhanced,
passtime. One lady
> I noticed in a recently published family history society journal reckoned
it might be time to give up being so helpful as her kindly indulgencies
seemed only to attract other's rudeness as her reward. What a shame.
>
>
> Michael Daniels
> Clacton-on-Sea Essex UK
> E-mail:
>
>

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