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From: "Katy" <>
Subject: Re: GRAVES IN UK
Date: Sun, 1 Apr 2001 18:30:37 +0100
I too have relatives buried in East Ham Churchyard and I went there on
Tuesday to find their graves, as you say it is now a nature reserve and my
family graves were in the "thicket". Unfortunately, we cannot find them to
record their records. On the same day I went to East London Cemetery and
found the grave of my grandfather and my greatgrandmother. It was the first
time I had ever been - not knowing where they were buried. My grandfather
died when my mother was eleven. It was wonderful to be able to go to the
grave and read the inscription and say a few words, I know my mother and
grandmother would have been proud that I cared enough to go and find them.
Unfortunately, in the same cemetery my mothers baby sister's grave has gone
and her other grandfather and greatgrandfather. What a pity I felt such
sadness that their last memory had gone. I did not know them and feel
sadness that what was the last act of respect for them has gone. I always
thought that being buried was for ever, not for convenience of the living.
From: Internet Support Team <>
Date: 01 April 2001 17:51
Subject: Fw: GRAVES IN UK
>----- Original Message -----
>From: Norman Lee <>
>Sent: Saturday, March 31, 2001 10:50 PM
>Subject: Re: GRAVES IN UK
>> I have always thought that it must be up to the closest relatives of the
>> deceased to make the decision. Not everyone wants to have their loved one
>> disposed of in an unknown, unmarked place. They sometimes want a focal
>> at which to grieve, or just to go and commune with the one who has
>> After all, when you are dead you can have no further interest in your
>> Audrey Lee (Stockport UK)
>> ----- Original Message -----
>> From: "Dorothy Letch" <>
>> To: <>
>> Sent: 22 March 2001 03:37
>> Subject: Re: GRAVES IN UK
>> > My Husbands Father, Grandparents, and an uncle who died aged 5 in 1915,
>> > buried in the churchyard of St.Mary Magdelane in East Ham, which is now
>> > nature reserve..a beautiful place.it is now closed as a cemetary, and
>> > been allowed to 'go back to nature'.
>> > I agree that this issue is going to cause a lot of debate..for instance
>> > all in favour of "green" burials..in biodegradeable caskets of whicker
>> > cardboard etc., and buried under a tree on farm land or in a woodland.
>> > personally.. I live near the ocean, and have left instructions to be
>> > down into the briny, so as to become part of the foodchain.
>> > It is an individual choice, but it is as pointed out,it's only the body
>> > is buried..not the person..the soul, and the love of the lost one
>> > in your heart and memories.. surely a memorial plaque, a tree or
>> > beautiful too? Lets keep RECORDS and Archives and biographies...not
>> > (as such)
>> > Just my humble opinion...
>> > may every heart be a happy heart.
>> > love
>> > dotl