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Date: Sat, 28 Feb 1998 12:16:42 -0600

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>>> Jerry was the kind of guy you love to hate. He was always in a good
>>> mood and always had something positive to say. When someone would ask
>>> him how he was doing, he would reply, "If I were any better, I would
>>> be twins!"
>>> He was a unique manager because he had several waiters who had
>>> followed him around from restaurant to restaurant. The reason the
>>> waiters followed Jerry was because of his attitude. He was a natural
>>> motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, Jerry was there
>>> telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the
>>> situation.
>>> Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up to
>>> Jerry and asked him, "I don't get it! You can't be a positive person
>>> all of the time. How do you do it?"
>>> Jerry replied, "Each morning I wake up and say to myself, 'Jerry, you
>>> have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or you can
>>> choose to be in a bad mood.' I choose to be in a good mood. Each time
>>> something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or I can choose to
>>> learn from it. I choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to
>>> me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or I can
>>> point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of
>>> life."
>>> "Yeah, right, it's not that easy," I protested.
>>> "Yes, it is," Jerry said. "Life is all about choices. When you cut
>>> away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you
>>> react to situations. You choose how people will affect your mood. You
>>> choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It's your
>>> choice how you live life."
>>> I reflected on what Jerry said. Soon thereafter, I left the restaurant
>>> industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but I often thought
>>> about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it.
>>> Several years later, I heard that Jerry did something you are never
>>> supposed to do in a restaurant business: he left the back door open
>>> one morning and was held up at gunpoint by three armed robbers. While
>>> trying to open the safe, his hand, shaking from nervousness, slipped
>>> off the combination. The robbers panicked and shot him. Luckily, Jerry
>>> was found relatively quickly and rushed to the local trauma center.
>>> After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, Jerry was
>>> released from the hospital with fragments of the bullets still in his
>>> body.
>>> I saw Jerry about six months after the accident. When I asked him how
>>> he was, he replied, "If I were any better, I'd be twins. Wanna see my
>>> scars?"
>>> I declined to see his wounds, but did ask him what had gone through
>>> his mind as the robbery took place. "The first thing that went through
>>> my mind was that I should have locked the back door," Jerry replied.
>>> "Then, as I lay on the floor, I remembered that I had two choices: I
>>> could choose to live, or I could choose to die. I chose to live."
>>> "Weren't you scared? Did you lose consciousness?" I asked.
>>> Jerry continued, "The paramedics were great. They kept telling me I
>>> was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the emergency room
>>> and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I
>>> got really scared. In their eyes, I read, 'He's a dead man.'
>>> "I knew I needed to take action."
>>> "What did you do?" I asked.
>>> "Well, there was a big, burly nurse shouting questions at me," said
>>> Jerry. "She asked if I was allergic to anything. 'Yes,' I replied. The
>>> doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took
>>> a deep breathe and yelled, 'Bullets!' Over their laughter, I told
>>> them. 'I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not
>>> dead."
>>> Jerry lived thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of
>>> his amazing attitude. I learned from him that every day we have the
>>> choice to live fully. Attitude, after all, is everything.
>>> You have 2 choices now:
>>> 1. save or delete this mail from your mail box.
>>> 2. forward it to anyone you care about.
>>> * Hope you will choose choice 2.
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